Are you feeling hurt often by people?
Do you remember past hurts while you talk to people?
Do you discuss or analyze your hurts?
Why is it important to know your hurts?
What do hurts do to us?
How can we heal our hurts?
What is the relation of Healing body to Healing Hurt?
Every one of us knows that all the events which have occurred in past are over and they exist only within our thoughts.
It is imperative to know what we do to ourselves when we say-
“I am hurt because of his doings” or
“I can’t forget what he has done to me” or
“I will never be able to talk to him in life” or
“I don’t think I can ever heal on this hurt” or
“It’s because of that person that I had to face this in my life” or
“I will never be able to resolve with him for what he has done to me”
When we say the above sentences over and over again, we actually turn our cells to block its ways of effective functioning. A person who feels hurt very often actually needs to know certain facts about how feeling hurt, remembering hurts over and over again, analyzing, discussing and repeating the hurt stories actually depletes his positive and healthy energy and obstructs healing. Lot of researches of psychologists initiated experiments to understand and then gave their outcomes as to how the healing is blocked because of blaming others and repeating the hurt stories and hurt incidents in life. This in a way strengthens our unwillingness to forgive others create walls to not allow positive healing thoughts which are looking to find way within us. Forgiveness releases and helps melting of Ulcers which are generated due to suppressed anger.
Forgiving the past hurts enables a person to see it as one off incidents and move forward to a positive state which is waiting for other dealings in life. By abstaining from repeating the hurt stories we welcome and open all the doors of receptivity that is standing our way to heal us.
Researchers have discussed the similarity in accumulation of more and more hurts with the deposits of cells which start killing themselves which happens in case of diseases like cancer where the body cells start to grow in an erratic manner. The relation of resentment and unforgiving hurts is so deep that people literally spend their whole lives complaining about their hurts and invite diseases. This blocks the normal flow of positive thoughts and gives more space to negatives which acts as strain for the heart because hurt has a direct impact on our hearts. People complain of artery blockage but are not ready to give way or change a blocked thought or opinion about someone.
A simple way to understand this is to think that any expression which is generated with hurt and hatred cannot lead to a healthy body and mind. Even if it is believed that a person suffered because of the wrong doing of the other person, it’s not a good idea to punish our own body for the wrong doing of other person; more to say, it’s being foolish. People suffering from cysts need to find out if they are repeating hurt stories and accumulating the resentment and understand this for their own good. Resentment has deep relation to the diseases like cancer.
Is the hurt really worth to carry if it costs that much to the body? Then why carry it and keep repeating it for gaining undue sympathy and grief if it tantamount to harming our own bodies. Then what can be done if we are not able to come out?
Well, the only way to heal the hurts is to work on forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a trick for pleasing others but to honestly forgive others for no good to them but our own selves so as to be free of those thoughts. We are only responsible for what we do and what we believe and intend to do. If we hold ourselves responsible for what others have to do or say we are over thinking it to be our duty.
Whether forgiveness has to be asked for your own self or it is to be given to others, both seem to be difficult to people. Essentially forgiveness is not about doing favor to another person by giving it or loosing credit by asking for it, but on the contrary it is an act to make oneself free and peaceful and heal the hurt so that it reflects on healing our unnecessary accumulated negative pasts.
Making a decision to forgive is the first and foremost step to heal a hurt. Asking for forgiveness is easier than giving forgiveness for most of the people. When it’s your turn to forgive the other you would feel I am right and why should I heed to doing any favor to the other person if he does not deserve. But actually even if I think I am right why should I keep the hurt and suffer my own health. Is it wise to punish your own self for an act of someone else? If forgiving that person can make you more peaceful and healthy is it not a good idea to give it and be healthy rather than holding the hurt and torture yourself to make your body suffer? So for our own good selfish interest of being at peace and being perfect health it is a good idea to forgive others as soon as we find we are hurt.
In case we are aware that we have hurt someone inadvertently or intentionally; in either which ways it’s a good idea to call up or meet the person and ask for forgiveness. This may sound like a big thing and people would always find an excuse to not do it. They might say and feel that if there is nothing left in heart, what is the need to ask for forgiveness specifically? But an interesting thing about it is that, the act of asking for forgiveness makes the mind feel the release and peace instantly.
For those who feel they have been hurt, it’s a good idea to sit peacefully and say out loud, “I now forgive (name) for (act). I now release him and myself and set us both free to choose a good relationship”.
Even otherwise suppression of anger, resentment, hatred, hurts, always leads to illness. Choose health to illness by resolving hurts and opening doors to healing of each and every cell of the body. We are forgiving others not for any other reason but to heal our body and soul.
Come lets move to our perfect bodies and state of mind by healing our hurts as we are responsible for our health and healings. Find a way to resolve all your hurts not to favor anyone but your own self and be Perfect Health and Healthy Mind!!
Happy Health to all of you!!