At a very early age we experience only appreciation from our parents due to the fact that we see ourselves from the eyes of our parents. We are pushed in front of others to recite poems or dance or sing or perform something, which we are good at. As children, we feel shy sometimes but we still start doing what we are told; just to hear those words of appreciation.
Over a period of time we get used to goodie talk so much from people around us that we dislike those moments, when we are told we are not good at certain things.
Habit of taking only good
Children tend to develop a psycho phenomenon of hearing good and disregarding what is not good. This becomes a subconscious registered practice in mind. The children during adolescence hate to hear about themselves anything negative and feel disrespected when they are criticized by anyone.
A child learns to walk over a period of time, with the initial failures to a gradual balancing act and a final confident walk. This particular part of child development involves both failure and success.
So, the only simple way to grow faster in life is to hear criticisms at young age and act on them to develop and rectify certain skills or habits. Not just because it is an opportunity for a real self improvement, but for a reason that if same things are to be changed or corrected at youth, it becomes a big effort for an individual.
Early corrections- Future bright careers
Certain pronunciations which need to be corrected can help a child to develop a fluent diction and language modulation; which on later date can open their doors to their wishful careers. Discipline of adhering to time to reach at interviews, meetings, etc. shows how much a person values a habit of being on time.
As students, we want people to groom us for interview, group discussions, presentations, confidence building, language fluency, etc. but if this was started from our childhood without our knowledge and with fewer efforts, it would have been a better deal.
Corrections can be made to the following aspects from our childhood like: body postures like moving the leg whenever you are sitting, moving your hands unnecessarily, looking here and there, instead of looking into the eyes of people while talking that shows lack of confidence and is not considered as a genuine expression.
Like it or not- Accept criticism
We don’t like parents or others nagging us, but the fact remains that they are valuable criticisms if they are done at an early age. New vistas could be tapped by working on these criticisms sometimes. We would realize the value of criticisms when we find them adding value to our skills. So welcome all criticisms in life.
In any case, whether all criticisms are useful or not, they can always be decided and then be chosen out of them to work on them. So, why close a door of light for self help. Whether you like it or not, certain criticisms on time management, organizational skills, trouble shooting, and communication are always helpful to be corrected as soon as you come to know about them…
Because –
“Receiving criticisms with receptivity opens easy doors to self development…
Which in turn enables to be at pace with this world competition…
And provides you with grey areas to be turned white in life…So why not enjoy this process as much as you enjoy appreciations….
And be wise to learn from them graciously….”