When I was a child, I overheard someone saying,
“A person grows as much as his self-esteem.”
I was unaware what it meant then. For this to be understood, I will have to quote an incident of my childhood. Though not originally from Gujarat, but being born and brought up created situations of confronting a bunch of children who happened to be from Gujarat. Since it was an everyday affair to play with them in the evening, whenever there was a dispute I was always compartmentalized and all others would team up to tease me and talk in their mother tongue. I would come home crying to my mom and tell her that all the children had treated me badly. I decided not to go out to play. My self-confidence was low because I could not understand what they would talk amongst themselves in Gujarati and laugh.
Then one day suddenly a thought struck my mind: “what if I know this language? Will it make me aware of what they are talking and make me feel stronger to handle them. I still remember that day when I told my mother that I would take up Gujarati as a subject in school too. She was surprised but then agreed. I took up Gujarati as a subject. I used to look into the mirror and practice the sentences to thinking that I need to be prepared if there is a fight or dispute.
Within a month I could see that my confidence has raised and I started to go back to play. Slowly I found my thought process changing and I started seeing myself as part of the team with them and began to enjoy. Now it was inevitable to stop me to go out to play. I still remember my expressions and talks with the mirror which brought back my self-confidence.
There are so many students who feel inhibited to talk in front of public as they feel that they lack self-confidence. Standing in front of the mirror and practicing your confrontations is a good beginning that will help you go a long way. Even if you are a star performer at studies, public speaking is a must for everyone. Whether it is an interview, a debate, presentation, project explanations, group discussions, confronting your superior at work place, expressing what is acceptable and what is not acceptable. This skill is a must in terms of excelling in any field you are. Whatever you do, you must learn how to manage your confrontations. And you can do it best if you have self-confidence. Self-confidence can be built up by knowing your traits and developing them through different techniques. Taking up extra-curricular activities like drama or dance can also help in improving self-esteem. It is basically about understanding that “You can handle it”.
If you gain an understanding and start realizing that you can handle yourself, your self-esteem will grow. So keep improving on your self-confidence to boost your self-esteem…
Because –
“Your Self Esteem will drive you high on your Goals;
So why not make the most of it”